Advice Column: Dear Rose

Dear Rose,
I think what you told that husband to do for his wife that was overweight and turned him off was wrong. I mean, it is not his responsibility to help her if she is fat. She should get off her butt and get rid of it herself. I lost 40 pounds when I needed to because it was the right thing to do. She cannot depend upon him for everything, and must take responsibility for her own actions. That is what is wrong with this society; everyone blames someone else for their problems. Well, I feel better that I got that off my chest.
Said it in Seymour

Dear Said it,
What you said about people taking responsibility for their own actions is correct. The woman should get off her butt and get rid of it. Let me ask you a question. Do you always do everything YOU should? According to Dr. Phil, and other medical professionals, obesity is more than just a physical problem; it is an emotional one as well. The reason that I gave the advice that I did, was that it was the husband that wrote, and he said that he really loved the woman. Love is a verb. Talk is cheap. This is one way that the man can work out his love, enjoy a closer bonding with his wife, and it can also give his wife the assurance that he cares. Of course, it is important that he keeps a sweetness and not a know-it-all attitude about the whole thing. It is important to expect good from people, and then you usually get it.

Dear Rose,
I am 15-year-old and a sophomore in high school. My problem is that all my friends are dating, and my parents say that I am not old enough. I don’t think it is fair. I make good grades and go to church. It’s not like I am going to run out and go to bed with someone. They don’t trust me and it hurts. Maybe they will listen to what you say.
Ticked off teen in Gatlinburg

Dear Ticked,
The problem you have is not new. Many teenagers have struggled with the same problem since the beginning of time. Please understand that your parents care for you. Believe it or not, many kids would trade places with you in a heartbeat. As long as you live with your parents you should respect their rules. Do they let you attend school functions? How about youth groups at your church? If they do let you attend those things, then be content. In a few more years you will be an adult, capable of making your own decisions, and possibly thankful that you do not have any of the problems that many teenagers have as a result of too much freedom.